hurting from helping

Hello
I have helped people and not had it returned. This is family that did this to me. We have all been through this. I don't know how you helped people with money or just doing favors for them?
You move on and find people you have things in common with doing fun things with them.
Take it easy,
Starshine

 in response to Jake111...   No need to apologize. Personally , I think more people have had this happen to the but don't want to admit it because of their pride. I have had friend turn on me in a heart beat and it made me wonder. I use to ride in a bike club, you figure that it would happe more in that situation. Wrong , it's you good ol american christian, baptist, catholic whoever.Church going is the word I'm looking for.
You could do this, to get there attention . Write up a bill for the cost and mention all the things you haven't charged them for and have it notorized.Present it to them in person , with a smile. If that doesn't work then they aren't friends, it my have slipped their minds, then either take them to civil court"judge Judy, joe Brown, or one of them and of course you have regular civil court, or drop it and let it be a sad lesson as to the stupidity of man.

You might pay more attention to susies son he has a gentler and kinder nature than what I do.

 in response to Jake111...   I think the best thing you can do in this situation is let it go. I know that is hard to do because emotions are involved and feeling have been abused, but probably the only person affected by their actions are you. It's sad to imagine, but there are people out there that don't care how their actions affect others. There are people who use a friendship like a door mat and just move on once they have wiped their feet on you. More then likely they have treated others the way they treated you, and their behavior will continue throughout their lives unless they allow the Lord to change them.
You are not helping yourself at all by allowing them to get the best of you. They have already taken your money without the intention of ever repaying it back, don't allow them to cause you to become bitter. You are a giving person and God will reward your kindness in other ways, and maybe through other people.
Ask the Lord to help you and guide you. He will take care of you, and He is aware of the kindness you have extended. I will be praying that the Lord helps you work through the pain and meets your needs financially.
Don't change who you are because of how other behave.
Have a good day
GOD BLESS

 in response to Jake111...   Very well said

 in response to johannagiles...   To joannejiles... You are right on all accounts except that I do surround myself with good people...in a sence...I try to see the good in everyone and. I sometimes ignore the other stuff. Everyone has problems and some more than others but sometimes they just need someone to listen and lend a hand. Like I said in another post...I just wish it was easier to let them know that not all people are bad so I help them when I can and hope that they realize that some people are good and no matter the problem it will get better so they don't need to treat people badly and be perceived as a bad person. I've noticed that a lot of them do that so they don't get hurt first . Most "bad" people have their reasons and I just like to prove that life is not all bad ,no matter what they have been through.

 in response to ekikaseven...   Thank you for that. That is the type of response I was hoping for...sincere...not like the others I keep getting in my mailbox pretty much telling me that I'm an idiot or full of it...they are just proving what I already think...people in general are just as happy insulting and condemning others as they are thinking that they are smarter and better than everyone else when they really just can't face the fact that they are just human and vulnerable to problems just like everyone else. SAD.

 in response to Schmidty...   Treat others as you would be treated .... I'm just saying its kind of crappy to run from a friend in trouble. I didn't ask them for help and I have other friends...I was just saying I helped some people and I got screwed. I misspoke when I didn't expect anything in return... I did trust that the money that I loaned that was agreed to be paid back would be... It wasn't and it put me in a bad spot. I did not expect anything for the six months of letting them have a roof over their heads and food in their stomachs. Taking them to do things so they wouldn't sit around getting depressed over their problems and I didn't expect anything for getting them each jobs once they were back on their feet I was happy for them and still let them stay so they could save money for their own place and gave them my older truck to get around in for free. All I had them agree to was PAY ME BACK THE CASH FOR TAG AND TITLE AND INSURANCE . It was agreed but never happened. They are doing well now and I am still happy for them but upset at the same time. I never saw that coming and still don't know why it happened ... They talk to other people I know and have no bad things to say about me . I took them at their word. And accept that it is my mistake but if you read my original post you will see that I was curious and wondering if others have gone through a similar situation... I was not trying to have someone offer an arguement on something other than the main point of the post. I really didn't want to type the whole story... And I still didn't ... But I am still curious if anyone had been through something similar and if so should I do something other than learn from my mistake. P.S. THEY DIDN'T ASK ME FOR THE INITIAL HELP, I JUST GAVE IT TO THEM, BUT IT GOT TO THE POINT WHERE THEY ASKED FOR OTHER THINGS ALL OF THE TIME AND WOULD TREAT ME HORRIBLY IF I HAD TO SAY NO. IF I SEE A FRIEND IN NEED I WILL DO WHAT I CAN TO HELP WITHOUT THEM ASKING SO THERE IS NO ONES PRIDE GETTING HURT. I have some great friends that treat everyone they meet very well including me so I am only talking about this specific situation and I am asking for advice if possible......WOW ... Sorry so long winded. I guess I had a lot more on my mind about this than I realized. I apologize.

Been there, done that !
Learned the hard way the only one I could depend on was myself & the L-rd.
Of course, since I married I can depend on my husband.
But, before that it was only me & G-d.
Humans will disappoint you every time.
Then again, maybe its meant to be that way. For G-d tells us to put not our trust in man, but trust in Him only.
Yet,it still hurts when people we help don't seem to give a hoot about us.
I learned that before 'I can love my neighbor as myself' that I have to learn to 'love myself'. And, if I love myself then I need to take care of myself too.

Sorry you had to experience this.

 in response to johannagiles...   Amen

I beg to differ. It sounds as if you did expect it in return. If you didn't expect it . That's what you got. No problem.

Most people will and do take advantage of a situation. You either keep giving out of the goodness of your heart and figure how to get out of these places where you get your butt bit. One way is by saying NO or I don't have it to spare.

Hope this answers your question. Good Luck and God Bless

I heard someehere prpbably in amovie that no good deed goes unpunished. I have done alot to help others too but maybe not as mcuch asyou. To make a long story short people take advantage and if you believe in God at all he will reward you. your time will come and hopelfully find better people to be around.